Depression is The New Black

Discussion in 'Health & Fitness' started by constibilis, Aug 27, 2016.

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Is depression the new black?

  1. yes

    5 vote(s)
    55.6%
  2. no

    4 vote(s)
    44.4%
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  1. constibilis

    constibilis New Member

    My addiction to self destruction is not a fashion statement. My depression is not your aesthetic.
    Mental illness is not "glamorous". There is nothing "pretty" about somebody crying alone in their bathroom because the think they don’t deserve to live. There is nothing "cute" about someone harming themselves because they feel as though they deserve it. There is nothing "fashionable" about people starving themselves, or purging after every meal because someone feels as though no one will love them because of their weight. There is nothing "romantic" about someone panicking, crying on the floor because they can’t get anything, or themselves to be ‘perfect’. There is nothing "mesmerizing" about feeling alone or unloved even surrounded by people. There is nothing "cute" about being reminded of being sexually harassed, abused, raped etc. by almost little things. There is nothing "cute" about thinking of ending your life. There is nothing "cute" about mental illnesses, so please stop advertising them as if they are.
    I've come to realize that as soon as you show a flaw or insecurity, people figure out a way to make profit, and we are selling ourselves as society, advertising our past/present/future by our actions like walking, talking billboard. But we aren't selling our illness. We are selling the pure idea of it. Bulimia is not a long haired pretty girl bending over the toilet with a tragically beautiful face. It's a puffed miserable face with vomit dripping from its chin and a nose bleed. Anorexia isn't a slim figure shyly refusing a cupcake. It's hair growing all over your freezing malnourished body. Depression isn't a model with mascara running down her cheeks while she stares into the sunset. It's staring at the ceiling at 4 in the morning with burning eyes because you can't even find the motivation to close them. Self harm isn't lonely boys kissing your wrists and telling you that you are still beautiful. It's a reminders of sadness and showers that sting. Panic attacks aren't burying your face in your lovers arms and having them tell you that everything is going to be okay. It's the feeling of lack of control, and like oxygen is being taken away from you. That selectivity caused by our lack of knowledge is deadly. Because the famous '' fake it 'till you make it'' statement works both ways.
     
  2. Rlee56

    Rlee56 New Member

    Thank you for an honest, engrossing post. I agree with you completely. Mental illness and many of the issues you pointed out in this post are subject to being romanticized and exploited for profit, and it's disgusting. There's nothing beautiful about feeling suicidal or unwell, and there's clear danger in promoting these ideas.
     
  3. koenjiemily

    koenjiemily New Member

    It's a really rough situation to find yourself. I know when we were younger there seemed to be a kind of contest at one point for who had the worst diagnosis which I guess from the outside seems weird but... feeling special is feeling special.
     
  4. mitchellponce

    mitchellponce New Member

    I am hesitant to make some comments about this topic because this is a very sensitive one. I haven't encountered a person battling with depression nor someone approached me and talk to me about this kind of dilemma. I don't know what to say because I know it is not easy to be on that situation. I may say that talking to someone or talking to a specialist would greatly help but sometimes to people with depression, talking is a task that needs a lot of energy for them. Being able to admit that you have that kind of situation is a big step. I would just say that whenever you have the chance to tell somebody your situation, tell them so. Please reach out. We all deserve to be happy.
     
  5. Dabmungandur

    Dabmungandur New Member

    I understand you. My life turned into a downward spiral last year due to unforeseen complications which still cause an ache even after all the time that has passed. It took me a while to be able to be able to come back to, well being me. But depression is not something I,or anyone else can give you advice on. Each of us fights their own battles in their own way. Some people surround themselves with loved ones. Others shy away from society. I personally became a shell of myself for half a year for the society and barely made any development until I regained my confidence. In the end,you just have to keep pretending you're happy until you start believing it too.
     
  6. Noragamijeaddo

    Noragamijeaddo New Member

    I deal with depression with simple things like exercise, take cold shower , eating , speak to someone like family, girlfriend or friends. Exercise has lots of benefits including reduce your depression, after you exercise you will feel a bit relax. Taking cold shower will change your state and make you feel better as well. Also I include eating but what you eat will indirectly affect your depression. Lastly try to open up to someone, talk about it
     
  7. I myself have experienced depression. i have commited suicide multiple times . I cannot even count. I was in highschool back then . It is Due to an assault. I wont elaborate because it is embarassing. but anyway, it is about depression. I was so misserable back then . My solution is to get drunk everyday, so i wont remember and i could just fall asleep without me thinking and dreaming about it. If i wasnt drunk. I just slept it away. I am letting days pass, I dont even care about showering. the thought of me being naked is scaring me. This is me letting it get the most of me. I felt alone , hopeless and empty . And i cant do nothing. But somehow i became my better self. I've met god . I felt peace , some may think it is ridiculous. But yes i found peace in him. I let him take over mylife. And now better things are comming on my way. Ive met my husband . Ive felt love and accepted etc. We got married . Have children and everything now is in the right path. Now everytime i am feeling depress. I just pray . Crying my heart out . It works everytime.
     
  8. Adesuwa08

    Adesuwa08 New Member

    I agree with you depression really kills within, it is a desire that burns and just push you anywhere and everywhere on a daily basis with confusion being the order of the day, depression is never a fun way to live because of that reminder of how incompetent you are to the society and the people around. People have propounded theories of how depression starts with some theories blaming it on the victims, while some attach it to a mental illness called bipolar this theory I agree with all the time, depression can also be the cause of family separation, deprivation and abuse from people around you this results to paranoia.

    I suffer from bipolar and have been on medications for it, there was a time I had this drug dependency thing and was being taking to rehab for it, those times I was being looked down by the society with rejection and hurt. I felt like I was different and I attempted suicide severally but it never came through, I still have my episodes of depression till date but it is been handled well by me because I discovered that am very okay so why should I feel bad about it, depression really is the new black it deals with someone who isn't use to it it rerenders someone incompetent with dark emotions of regrets.
     
  9. NickStasi

    NickStasi New Member

    Well, I won't give my point of view on depression as I feel it can be experienced in many different ways, by vastly different people.
    However, I can testify that depression is somewhat considered "cool" or if not that, regarded as some achievement in one's life, here in the 21st century. As when i was in High School, there was no kids I knew who hadn't been at least once to see a psychologist regarding any issues. It is very "en vogue" to have somewhat of a mental illness (look at the Tumblr kids... it's funny because i may be younger than the people i'm actually referring to, lol) and to let everybody know you have it. Either that, or we truly live in a sad time where a lot of people can't find anything worth fighting for and just give up. And that is truly depressing. Vicious cycle.
     
  10. romilda

    romilda Member

    Try to pray every problem you encounter and understand that you can't have everything you want. Always try to avoid depression.
     
  11. rvtamayo

    rvtamayo Member

    Depression destroys life. But understanding every situation's and executing the actions we need to take and live with it avoids us from being depressed. To see the beauty of living and understanding that all the hardships and the pain we encounter are just part of the process of living a fulfilling life.
     
  12. gelouborlasa

    gelouborlasa New Member

    Your message couldn't be more true. It actually reminded me of a video I have watched in Youtube wherein mental illnesses were being romanticized particularly in social media. The idea of depression being glorified and being labeled as cool is quite disappointing, if not outright insulting to me and to the others who are truly suffering from this crippling illness. The severity of the situation was being downplayed, and instead of being taken seriously, they were being used in getting the attention that they want. So no, depression is not the new black for me.
     
  13. Warren1967

    Warren1967 Well-Known Member

    Never make depression a trend. It is a mood or feeling that saps the life out of you. That leads to victim mentality and I believe that it is a bad trend in society. Do better something better with your life. Depression gets you nowhere but an early grave.
     
  14. mirky

    mirky New Member

    I really wish depression was talked about with a lot more clarity...it's certainly getting accepted and understood, but there's a cultural stigma against talking about what really drives it in different people, and how it's driven, and how people can formulate that into words so they can support/depend on others. I think it's "cool" because it's not really understood, and a lot of confused hormonal kids don't know how to talk about their feelings. I totally get your frustration, it's so sad all around. I've done a lot of therapy and introspection; depression is still with me sometimes, but it's more like a dull ache than an overwhelming cascade. I really wish you the best of luck
     
  15. ramraechel26

    ramraechel26 New Member


    What's even worse than this is the stigma on mental illness. It has been decreasing for the past few years--- but undoubtedly still there.

    I recently went through a hard time and mistakingly mentioned my appointment to someone at work that I thought would understand. What she did after hearing what I said, is chuckle. See, some people who has never experienced feeling helpless, and invaluable to the point that you want to end your existence, thinks depression is just being overly dramatic. It is a very dangerous view to have. I've been depressed most my adult life but no one in my family knows the depth of it. You know what they said when I mentioned it a while ago? "Just pray." I don't have anything against this belief and I certainly hope it could just go away by praying and believing and having faith that everything will be fine. But that's not enough to console someone going through a mental illness. It's easy to tell people everything is going to be okay, when you don't know first-hand what they're going through. So I call to everyone who knows someone in this trying time to stop yourself from assuming you know what's going on. Stop yourself from telling the person it will all pass. Because that person? They feel like they're stuck there forever. They feel helpless. They don't need to hear from you otherwise because they don't see the end of the tunnel. Not even a glimmer of light. Telling them it's going to be okay will not make an impact.

    Be there for them. Help them get the proper help they need. To those in this trying time, if you want to get better, if you still have hope left in you for a better life or at least a better state of mind. Look for a professional to talk to. Don't be afraid that they'll take you for granted or won't take you seriously. Just take this step and see how it goes. My heart goes out to those in need of love. As cliche as it is, if you can't love yourself, you can't truly love anyone else.
     
  16. Depression is a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act. Depression causes feelings of sadness and/or a loss of interest in activities once enjoyed. It can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems and can decrease a person’s ability to function at work and at home. Fortunately, it is also treatable, however, depression cannot be treated in one day. For some, it can be a long recovery, but you will struggle to find someone who says it wasn’t worth it. You may find yourself doing a combination of recovery techniques with your clinical psychologist in Manila. Including, individual and group therapy sessions, antidepressant medication, a change in diet or exercise instructions. When visiting Prescription Psychiatrist, you will never be forced into a treatment you feel uncomfortable participating in. When you come in for your psychiatrist consultation, we will determine what your needs are and what we think is the best road to recovery for you.
     
  17. HanniBanni

    HanniBanni New Member

    Hidden depression can bring a person's increased desire to talk about philosophical topics, using a more abstract way of expressing thoughts. Depressed people want to talk about the meaning of life and do it constantly. People suffering from depression often look for excuses to hide their true desires. Sometimes they just want to lie home alone instead of going somewhere and breaking the mood of others with their emotional state. So it is not strange if you hear from them a long fictional story justifying why they did not appear on your birthday. In a state of depression people perceive the environment differently. A person can start to agree with everyone, stop expressing their thoughts and desires, not respond to injuries they have caused, and even feel pain in situations where pain is unavoidable, such as losing a loved one. The person may, also, complain of heart discomfort, tension in the hands and feet, difficulty breathing, headache, toothache, etc. Studies show that everything is fine with a person's health.
     
  18. EnceJoy

    EnceJoy New Member

    Depression and the last thing you want to experience in life. Once you experience it, it would be hard for you to get out. It's the feeling of being in a very wide dark room where you couldn't find your way out and thirsty for even the tiniest light. You feel hopeless that you think there's no way out. Even when you get to find your way out, it will always be a part of us but it's something we must use to keep pushing in life.
     

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