I lost weight by making the decision to lose weight, and I made that decision every day until I lost the weight I wanted to lose. The best way to lose weight is to honor your body and recognize the importance of aiming to get your body to a better version of itself, not to get your body to look and/or behave like someone else's body. I naturally treat my body well when I'm valuing all that it does for me: It allows me to travel and experience the world It allows me to give and receive hugs It allows me to understand and learn If I challenge it, it will get stronger and more powerful and so forth On a practical level, finding a diet that you can live with is crucial, and it's okay to experiment. Failure is just feedback. If one plan doesn't work, troubleshoot and create or find another. Eat less and eat better (high quality foods that both taste and feel good to you). Some people do well with lots of salads, while others do well with lots of meat. Everyone is different. Portion control, in my opinion, is the one thing that is universal. Too much of anything is rarely good. Exercise doesn't have to be killer. Daily walks can be enough at first. Then, with confidence, those daily walks can turn into jogs or sprints or bike rides or hikes. Who knows? Do the activities that you enjoy because it's important to keep active after you've lost the weight.