How to deal with break up?

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  1. nheilm2020

    nheilm2020 Member

    Break up is just crazy stuff, isn't it? Anyone who has experience of breaking up is just basically normal. With break up, chances to learn more people and things in life come in. So, just cheer up! It is not the end of your world. Keep on moving an embracing the new opportunities that would enter in your life. Indeed, with break up, you would learn how to manage heartaches and being flexible to accept ups and downs in life. Acceptance always matters.
     
  2. johnorosco

    johnorosco New Member

    Accept that you made a mistake,you think she is special because she/he was your girl/boyfriend and beacause you love your self so much your think your ex is the best. you're basically obsessed with your own choice. Your brain tells you you're so perfect and intelligent that you cannot make a wrong choice.But infact thats what you need to tell yourself,you made a mistake.
     
  3. rextrip

    rextrip Member

    Breaking up is never easy, even if you’re the one
    initiating the end of the relationship.

    Hence when one is in such situation, he/she has to stay socially active so as to get over it.

    At times, the grief of a breakup may be so strong that
    you end up being alone. Group support and individual
    support with friends and family is important. Try not to
    isolate yourself during this delicate time.
     
  4. yayanaz13

    yayanaz13 New Member

    How to manage with break up is you need to make yourself busy like spending your time with your family and friends. Start to find a new hobby and get socialise with people. You also need to be positive which if you cannot manage your break up you might affect you life such as your work and your health.
     
  5. vlmrspns

    vlmrspns New Member

    I always believe that the process of moving on after the break up is never easy as it seems. You might undergo self-pity or self-blame to what happened. I always tell my friends to first release their pain through crying, shouting, or finding a comfortable place to release their anger without harming anyone and themselves. Second, acceptance, because acknowledgement of what happened will make you somehow feel at ease. Always choose to accept what you can't change. Because through acceptance you will know your worth as well. Lastly, make yourself presentable again. Go back from your roots and focus on things that will make you happy. You can't give what you don't have. So, love yourself first and with that you attract love. They say if you really want something, the universe will conspire in helping you to achieve it. Make yourself look fine, chin up, walk and move forward.
     
  6. yetyet

    yetyet Member

    Ouch!!!break-up, break-up, break-up....How are we going to deal with you? Well it's part of our journey in search for our better half. Not a good experience but teaches us to be strong and made us realized what we want and we don't want in a relationship and for our future partner. For girls like me out there, after break up if you want to cry out so loud so be it, do it for the whole night but put in mind just do it for one whole night. When you wake up in the morning (I know you lost your appetite) don't forget to drink warm water (our body needs it). Then staying at home is so boring, better go out and look for a beauty salon for make over (it's much better if you do it with friends they are your best companion who never stop cursing your ex-lover,haha). Have fun with friends, play with kids, do a lot of things. Just simply keep yourself busy to the point that you don't have time to think about it. Always look at the mirror and remember you are worth it and a beautiful creature of God so kneel down and pray. Heartbreaks are just temporary, You have to stand again and continue living...Don't look for a guy, it's the guys work to look for you. Heads-up, you're a woman...the woe of the man...
     
  7. Kaye8094

    Kaye8094 New Member

    Like people who told here that being in break up was never that easy and for me it is TRUE. Because your love to someone is never that easy to erase. The moment that you shared together was a totally a memory to you. but we have to be ready and open that once you love someone it will always come to an end, if you are totally not for each other. Once you are in breakup you have to be strong enough to accept that there people that not for each other, there are some changes in your relationship that you can't survive and the only right thing to do is to let him or her go. Another one is don't let yourself be stuck on that feeling because once you have been stuck on that you will never see the better tomorrow or opportunity to you that there is someone who is better and deserving for you.
     
  8. moschab

    moschab New Member

    don't let sadness beat you. You don't have to worry, because there are really people who deserve you. do not regret or be sad because of break up. there will be someone who are really for you. just wait.
     
  9. Kyan03

    Kyan03 New Member

    Break up is the most painful thing that every person can experience. There are many ways on how to deal with break ups circulating the net. For me, the first thing to do is to FORGIVE. Forgiveness is the first and foremost thing to do before a wounded heart may heal. Through forgiveness, we will realize the wrong things the we did before that resulted why we ended up broken him/her and the things that we should correct for our future preference. Likewise, through this we will find our self importance over the person whom we had loved before. Finally, through this, we will again love our self so that in the future we can learn to let go of the feelings of the past in preparation for loving someone in the future.
     
  10. iwisting

    iwisting Member

    At the point of break up, you don't really know how to deal with it at first. Everything just somewhat went blank or like the time has just stopped for you. You can't think of how to suppress your emotions but only feel how it hurts you - how it pierces through you. It sucks big time! At the end of the day, you'll just find yourself crying, down, detached. But time can deal with it. You just have to experience being heartbroken, accept what has happened and go on; move forward to what has been holding you back since the break up. It's a gradual process but you'll get there, away from the pain it caused you.
     
  11. mhatter47

    mhatter47 New Member

    Break up what an easy word to say but a hurtfull experienced.Everyone of us deal about this but some with positive outlook and some with negative outlook.When I experienced break up, it put me into pieces i can do nothing just to cry and locked in my room but Im happy now because i found out it is just a trial for me.You can rely on what is the great source of help with God alone.
     
  12. mbrnrd

    mbrnrd Member

    1. Cry all you want.
    2. After that, set a goal or limit. Like this week you cried almost everyday so you're goal next week is to not cry for atleast 3/7 days.
    3. Delete EVERYTHING related to him/her. You can reminisce while doing this.
    4. Divert your attention into something else.
    5. Be with your friends.
    6. Focus on your life, theres so much more than him/her.
    7. Be happy.
     
  13. RyanIsTrying

    RyanIsTrying New Member

    Know that overall, your well being is for the best.
     
  14. jeszai

    jeszai Member

    If you wanted to have a peaceful way of closing the story you have to stop blaming game. Stop blaming your ex for all his/her flaws. Stop blaming yourself for not being good enough. Look back to the times that you were both happy, reminisce if you must. Carry all the pain and cry it out, and then move forward. Move forward as if there is something out there waiting for you. And then the hardest part, let go. Let go of the plans you made with your ex, let go of the person you thought you'll have in this lifetime. Let it go. Let it pass. Stop holding into it. And if your stronger enough, go back to that person and give thanks and give peace for he/she had become part of you story.
     
  15. DyKatrina1

    DyKatrina1 New Member

    Breaking up is never easy even if you are the first one initiating the break up, and yes it is okay to express your emotion towards the season, acknowledge whatever your feeling. But the good side about breaking up is you will find you again, imagine being free from heartache, pain, anxiety etc., because of someone. Stay busy or socially active, go out with your good friends. It is good to nourish yourself first, love yourself first and taking care of your well being. Find your peace in singleness season.
     
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  16. subhan456f

    subhan456f Member

    good friends is very important they give use their time to forget our past we should listen music playing games and reading good books when our heart is break
     
  17. AliceB13

    AliceB13 New Member

    Be proactive. But first, finish crying; I call it mourning. After you`re done with that, something just clicks, it`s like you wake up and start doing stuff for yourself. try yoga, meditation, gym, reading. These helped me+ find a good friend and pour your heart out
     
  18. AdrianaK

    AdrianaK New Member

    I look at it this way: If it was a real thing, real love, something that was meant for you, it would have worked out. That helps me let go of it. It may be hard to think that way right after the break up, but after a while I always realize that break up was a blessing in disguise that helped me grow as a person.
     
  19. BettyLaFea

    BettyLaFea New Member

    A broken heart is probably one of the most painful experiences this life has to offer…I know if I had a dollar for every heartbreak and disappointment I’ve felt, I’d be able to finance a cruise around the world…well, maybe a cruise half-way around the world. It’s not only losing the person you were with, but also the life you thought you might have. This heartbreaks left me with one choice, it is to prioritize happiness. There is no shame in letting the body, mind, and soul experience all that it needs to in order to feel happy again. Get support. Talk with friends and family. Surround yourself with people who bring you up. And, to have hope that you will love again. If you aren’t there yet, have hope that you will hope to have love again. Hope does indeed spring eternal, and when the heart is ready, it will open up to love again.
     
  20. mimi93aly

    mimi93aly New Member

    How to deal with a Breakup? First things first, get your phone and call your friends. Tell them that you wanna drink because you just ended your relationship. GET WASTED!!! Cry until you pour your heart out. The next day you will suffer from a very bad hangover. You will tell yourself that you don't wanna drink anymore. But when you remember him/her you will remember everything and you will ended up drinking again. There's no easy way to cope from a breakup just accept everything and drink. The pain can stop if you accept everything. Smile always! There so many fish in the sea tho.
     
  21. Teachergeorge

    Teachergeorge Member

    Whenever a break up occurs, one must accept the new status. Secondly, device way to heal after mourning period. Do not rush to have a new boyfriend or girlfriend as this will be wrong. Make yourself busy by joining peer groups which will give you a sense of belonging. Confide in a trusted friend about what you are going through as opening up intensifies the healing process.
     
  22. mhatter47

    mhatter47 New Member

    To help you on your way, we've rounded up seven simple, expert-approved strategies for coping with breakup stress:
    1. Write Or Talk It Out. ...
    2. Take Care Of Your Body. ...
    3. Get Active (But Don't Over-Exercise) ...
    4. Remind Yourself Of All The Great Things In Your Life. ...
    5. Do Things YOU Love. ...
    6. Try An 'Obsession Diet.' ...
    7. Give Back.
     
  23. clairebalubal

    clairebalubal Member

    I already have few break ups with people I still love and it is heartbreaking. Break ups are heart breaking if you still love or care for that person. What I do is I hang out with my friends, focuses more on my studies, listen to music and read books. However, even if I do these things, there are still chances that I remember him and feel sad. Moving on is not easy so I surround myself with happy people especially my friends and family.
     
  24. sivanro

    sivanro New Member

    There's more to life than crying over a person who does not appreciate you enough. There's more to life than feeling bad for yourself because the one you love the most in the world left you for another. There's more to life than a heartbreak. You may not believe this now, but you know what they all say, "time heals all wounds." And it's true, it does. Proven and tested. So, move on. Travel. Surround yourself with a great support system. Read a new book you never thought you'd like. At this point in time, it's never too late to open yourself to new horizons. However, it's okay to also have some kind of familiarity once in a while. It's okay to go back to the things you enjoy doing and occupying your mind with the ones you're passionate about. Rewatch your favourite TV shows and movies. Sing your favourite songs, and have no regrets. Eat your favourite ice cream and laugh out loud without a care in the world. And remember, breathe. Let go. Healing will follow.
     
  25. Rijumon007

    Rijumon007 Member

    Surround yourself with family and friends....
    Believe that someone better is meant for you...
    Seek spiritual healing...
     
  26. donjandex

    donjandex New Member

    Give yourself a break- Permit yourself to feel and to function at a less than optimal level for some time. You may not be able to be quite as productive on the job or care for others in exactly the way you’re accustomed to for a little while. No one is superman or superwoman; take time to heal, regroup, and re-energize.
     
  27. Celsojay

    Celsojay New Member

    Truly i tell you break up isn't easy you need to adjust your life for what you used to be, but always remember after every rain there is sunshine, so heads up and move forward forget all the things that would make you remember the past and learn to love your present
     
  28. leogem123

    leogem123 New Member

    You really need me. :) just listen to me. Just enjoy your self learn some new interested things that will make you happy. Don't commit suicide! avoid that thing. Try to explore some things that will change your life and it will make you bloom.. we're all in problem like that, but the best one is those who survive.
     
  29. Rexway4

    Rexway4 Member

    There are so many ways to deal with break up some of the ways to deal with this issue is by making sure that yoy meet up with your partner demand,

    but if by mistake you encounter such problem in your relationship then you must apologize to your partner and make new changes that wont permit such conflict to arize in your relationship.
     
  30. JTibIV

    JTibIV New Member

    Break ups are the worst especially if you already envisioned a life with that person. It is hard in a way that families and friends built around your relationship will also be affected. To deal with breakups, you will first need face how hard the acceptance phase is. In this phase, you will have to tell yourself that what’s done is done. You can’t just go back to how things were like. You have to accept that you have to continue your journey without that person. After you accept, you have to grow. You do not have to blame yourself for what happened but do not fear having a room for change. This will make you better as a person and will ready you if in case you decided to enter another relationship in the future.
     

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