Would you forgive a man for cheating?

Discussion in 'Business, Politics, & Debates' started by roxanam84, May 19, 2017.

  1. gerlie windham

    gerlie windham New Member

    I will forgive but I won't forget and trust him easily. Before my man cheated on me, I said to myself that I will leave him at once if he does something that will ruin or relationship. However, when the worst feeling of a woman being cheated on happened to me, I figured love is so powerful that it can make you eat your pride and give that man a chance again.
     
  2. eunicecabaccan07

    eunicecabaccan07 New Member

    Cheating cannot be prevented. Cheating occurs because of Long distance relationship, Fights, discontentment and more. But the question is, can you forgive a man who cheats? For me, i will forgive him as long as i could but there are some points that women gives up. Don't allow to that point to come because when a women give's up. She really means's stop, i'm tired, your not worth it. We forgive but don't forget.
     
  3. Pearl Gee Namuco

    Pearl Gee Namuco New Member

    I can forgive. Well, no body is perfect: people commit mistakes, get seduced, fail to be tough and some choose self over others. I don't want to be self righteous or sound preachy but just to say, if God can forgive us from all our mistakes and short coming over and over. How are we not to forgive. When we forgive, we help ourselves have peace and healthier heart. Life is short, we should always remember so why waste each seconds on hate and resentment. Cheers! =)
     
  4. Fmattson

    Fmattson New Member

    Yes, forgive but probably not forget. It would probably be the end of the relationship for me. But yeah I'd forgive. Might take a little longer than the normal situation would be but eventually I'd find it in my heart to accept that he was only human and we all make mistakes.
     
  5. I am answering this from my own point of view and I based this on my past experiences, 60% of my former relationships have cheated on me. I will never forget but I will forgive them. I WILL NEVER EVER be with them again. I never have an ex-boyfriend that I did get back with him or any of them. Just like Taylor Swift's song "We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together" because that's not going to happen. It's just never going to happen with me because no matter how I LOVED you before? I can just move on and not waste my time thinking about the things you've done over and over again. It's the best decision to move on with life and make yourself better. Make him/her regret the day he/she cheated on you.;)
     
  6. botbotpinky18

    botbotpinky18 New Member

    If ever there will be a chance that my man would cheat on me, I will forgive him if he ask for it. I believe that my love for him is more important than the mistake he has done in our relationship. I know that there will always be this trust issue whether he will do it again or not but when you love someone truly, you have to accept them when they made mistakes and are willing to change. We are only people and we are not perfect. I know that being cheated on is very painful, but we always have the choice. If we don't love him anymore because of what he did then we let him go, but if we are forgiver and willing to take the risk again then we give him another chance.
     
  7. vy rose

    vy rose New Member

    Yes, I would forgive him. This is because forgiveness has a two-way benefit. Both me and him will benefit but I would focus on myself first. Forgiving means not holding any grudge against him. We all know that holding a grudge is like holding coal with bare hands while intending to throw it at someone else only to end being burnt instead.
     
  8. nino dela cruz

    nino dela cruz New Member

    I guess every person in this world deserve second chance. You must give that man a chance to prove himself that he will not do it again. But if he commit again that mistake he once did, then It's time to go in separate ways.
     
  9. Eduvesa24

    Eduvesa24 New Member

    Yes, I can forgive a person who cheated on me. I know at first it’s really hard to forgive, but I know I can. Being cheated makes you scream and punish yourself or punish the one who cheated on you. But for your own peace of mind, you need to forgive and let go of the pain, in order for you to live peacefully and be truly happy. It can also benefit you when you try to forgive because the anger you felt is like a poison that needs to be release. And don’t let anger, hatred poisoned you.
     
  10. karencute30

    karencute30 New Member

    In my opinion and based on my experienced, Yes! I defenitely forgive him if he ask for it but in time and when my heart totally heals. I can give my forgiveness but I can't give my trust because trust should be gained. Forgiving the person doesn't mean that you forget what he/she did. It is just one step for healing one's heart. I believed that everyone deserves a second chance because nobody is perfect and everyone got mistake. If God can forgive us of our sins, then why don't we. As long as the person promise for not doing that again and sincere for sorry, then why not? But it really depends to the person who will give his/her forgiveness, on how he/she trully love his/her partner. When you love someone no matter how painful it is you will forgive him/her because when you love you're happy, and that's what you deserve.
     
  11. bubbledie

    bubbledie New Member

    Yes, I would forgive him. Who am I to judge? I also made a mistake and everyone deserve a second chance.
    If he was truly sincere and he proves that he change himself why not forgive him. :)
     
  12. Coral7

    Coral7 New Member

    I don't think I would forgive if that happens to me. Something I wouldn't do, is something I wouldn't like anybody to do to me. It must be horrible, only thinking about that makes me sick. If I discover that my partner is cheating on me, I would confront him, and split, because nothing is more important than the respect I deserve. I think after an episode like that, everything must change, you don't trust your partner anymore, you might think, where is he now, and a lot of not healthy thoughts in your mind. Better to cut the whole situation from its root, and just start over, be happy, take the time to start doing different things, don't think about a revenge , just let the time pass, go out with friends and family members, keep yourself busy, and better times will come.
     
  13. Enelra12

    Enelra12 New Member

    Of course,yes.Everyone deserves a second chance.If God forgives how much more with the human like us?It's painful but we need to accept that is part of our life,to get hurt and to forgive maybe not right now but at the right time.We're not perfect,maybe there's a reason why he did it to you.God will not gives us master of trials that we will not survive.
     
  14. Once a cheater is always a cheater. I will never give a bit of chance if my man will cheat on me. But its easy for me to say that because its a perception of a single woman like me. If you asked a married woman, they tend to open their arms even if it hurts because they always consider their family and children. They give not just second chance but third or fourth or maybe fifth. We can't blame them for the decision they're making. :thumbsup:
     
  15. jhonuarin03

    jhonuarin03 Member

    When someone cheats on you, your mind and emotions scream at you to hate, punish and never forgive. It’s hard to let go of those feelings.
    Nonetheless, forgiving someone for cheating will actually benefit the faithful person more than the cheater. The anger we feel after infidelity is like a poison that lives in us. Forgiveness is the antidote and the only way to move on.
    You should try to forgive someone for cheating, but only once you understand what forgiveness means and how you can achieve it.
     
  16. carlopogi2007

    carlopogi2007 New Member

    Forgiveness is no easy feat, especially when it comes to cheating. Forgiving someone for almost anything else is probably easier than forgiving them for cheating! Jealous of an ex? I can forgive you. Went through my phone? Eh… I can forgive, I think. Went behind my back and messed around with someone else?! It’s not that easy to forgive something like that. It’s normal to feel betrayed and hurt and lied to, but sometimes, if there is still a lot of love between both people involved in the relationship, it may be worth fighting for.
     
  17. bethy

    bethy New Member

    If we're going to obey what the Bible says, it's yes . We should forgive, not only on some kinds of sin or if the sinner ask for it. Jesus taught we should forgive as God forgives us. If we do not forgive, it will not be good to our emotional health and our physical body will also be affected. We can acquire some diseases if our mind and heart are full of resentment.
     
  18. FaithFirestone

    FaithFirestone New Member

    I forgave my ex-husband for cheating and even managed to move on and trust him again after the first time he did it. When he cheated again, though I eventually forgave him, the trust was already gone and so was the love, which had eroded after years of feeling emotionally neglected and being hurt by him. I lived in an affection-less and loveless marriage for too many years and if I had to do it all over again, I would have left him the first time he cheated. Depending on the situation, forgiveness can be difficult but not impossible and it does not mean that the person gets a "pass" on their behavior or that somehow you were o.k. with them hurting you. Forgiveness is more about you, and letting go of anger than it is about the person that hurt you.
     
  19. nichole-yc1F

    nichole-yc1F New Member

    Yes, but forgiving comes with a limit. Forgiving once is okay however if he still keeps on cheating after then it's already a different story.
     
    1 person likes this.
  20. Lady_Seah

    Lady_Seah New Member

    If the man was really proved to be cheating then forgiveness will come a long way. I can't stay mad for a long time and develop a grudge. I won't let it rule my life. But reconciling the relationship would be impossible for me. For some it still depends especially if the guy is really serious in changing and waited for you for years and you still have feelings for him.

    I think in a relationship there will always be doubts and I think security is the best answer to avoid being cheated. Make sure your partner felt loved and cherished emotionally and physically. Be supportive and encouraging, make sure you have time for each other. Go on a trip and discover new things.
     
  21. ishhh

    ishhh New Member

    There's no excuse for cheating, It is definitely unjustifiable. Nobody deserves to be cheated on and be treated like that. I would forgive but there won't be any second chances on our relationship. The person had my full trust, but chose to break it.

    At the end of the day, It will only be our choices, actions and the result that comes with it that matters. Both parties has a lesson to learn that will eventually make them wiser the next time love comes around.
     
  22. robertkennedy

    robertkennedy New Member

    It depends on the marriage. If a couple go into the marriage with the idea that cheating need not be a deal breaker then it's all good. However, in a regular marriage where two people make vows not to cheat, then why go out of your way to hurt someone. If you're at a point where you want to cheat the marriage is probably on its last legs anyway, so why not just make a clean break and not hurt someone intentionally?
     
  23. chinirie

    chinirie New Member

    Yes. Forgiving is not hard to give what's hard is to forget. Cheating is a choice yes, but everybody deserves to be forgiven. I had experienced being cheated on by the same guy for several times before. Yes it does hurt so bad but I forgave him. Why? Because the happy memories we had prevailed the pain he has given me. We are not together anymore but I'm happy for him and I'm also happy for myself now. All those tears, all those heartache, all those pain he had given me made me stronger. What's important is I've learned from what happened to us and every pain was all worth it. Just spread the love. No hate just love.
     
  24. gabridosilang

    gabridosilang Member

    Everybody deserves a second chance. If you really love the person and you still feel the love to your partner, yes you can still give a second chance. IF GOD can forgive us why can't I?You can easily forgive but I know its hard to forget.It's in a long process and you should need more prayers and guidance. Men born polygamous. They still looking for love that others may offer for free. And after that they realized they still love their wife. And if the trust, love and respect is not there anymore, no need to continue the relationship move on to your life. He's not worth fighting for.
     

Share This Page